Relationships: Healthy vs. Unhealthy

Sept. 1, 2016

In a healthy relationship, you:

• Treat each other with respect

• Feel secure and comfortable

• Are not violent with each other

• Can resolve conflicts satisfactorily

• Enjoy the time you spend together

• Support one another

• Take interest in one another’s lives: health, family, work, etc.

• Can trust each other

• Are each sexual by choice

• Communicate clearly and openly

• Have texts, phone calls, and e-mail that are your own

• Encourage other friendships

• Are honest about your past and present sexual activity if the relationship is intimate

• Know that most people in your life are happy about the relationship

• Have more good times in the relationship than bad

 

 

In an unhealthy relationship, you:

• Try to control or manipulate the other

• Make the other feel bad about themselves

• Ridicule, criticize, or put down people with whom you identify

• Dictate how the other dresses

• Do not make time for each other

• Criticize the other's friends

• Are afraid of the other's temper

• Discourage the other from being close with anyone else

• Ignore each other when one is speaking

• Are overly possessive or get jealous about

ordinary behavior

• Control the other's money or other resources

(e.g., car, cellphone, etc.)

• Harm or threaten to harm children, family,

pets, or objects of personal value

• Push, grab, hit, punch, or throw objects

• Use physical force or threats to prevent the

other from leaving

This information was adapted from Go Ask Alice at Columbia University.

If you or someone you know needs help with an unhealthy relationship, there are resources that can help.

ON CAMPUS:

Counseling & Psych Services (CAPS) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .520.621.3334
Oasis Sexual Assault, Relationship Violence, & Trauma Services . . . . . . . . . .  . .520.626.2051
Survivor Advocacy
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 520.621.5767

OFF CAMPUS:

Southern Arizona Center Against Sexual Assault 24-hour crisis line . . . . . . .520.327.7273
National Domestic Violence 24-hour hotline . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . .800.799.7233